Language is constantly evolving, but one thing that stays the same is the fact that our choice of words matters. What we say can have a huge impact on another person. And that’s certainly the case when it comes to using the right pronouns.
You may have heard people talk about “preferred pronouns” but this term isn’t quite right. The word “preferred” implies they are chosen, whereas pronouns should be seen as an integral part of the person. And that is why they are so important to get right.
What pronouns do people commonly use?
• He/him/his: Typically used by someone who identifies as male.
• She/her/hers: Typically used by someone who identifies as female.
• They/them/their: Can be used to refer to more than one person, but is also used by some people who don’t identify as exclusively male or female.
• Xe/xem/xir: This is an example of a gender-neutral, non-binary neopronoun and is used by those who feel the standard, traditional pronouns are not suitable for describing themselves.
• Ze/zem/zir: Another example of a gender-neutral, non-binary neopronoun.
Five reasons why it matters to get pronouns right
Introducing yourself by specifying your own pronouns and inviting others to follow your lead takes just a few seconds, but it can have a hugely positive impact on the person you are talking to:
• It can make people feel immediately at ease and encourage them to be themselves
• It shows respect and understanding
• It helps to create an inclusive environment
• It can make people feel seen and safe
• It can reaffirm and validate their identity
The problem with misgendering
One should never assume a person’s pronouns purely based on their appearance. Assuming or ignoring pronouns and consequently misgendering people – whether deliberate or not – can be incredibly hurtful.
Misgendering can make some people feel “othered”, and repeated misgendering can have a seriously negative impact on their mental health, contributing to gender dysphoria, for example.
We can all play our part
We can all help to create a more inclusive society by normalising the practice of sharing pronouns. You could include them at the beginning of a conversation in everyday life, on your social media profile and on your email signature at work, for example.
Waterside Clinic welcomes you
Waterside Clinic is proud to provide supportive transgender and non-binary care within a safe, inclusive and welcoming environment. If you would like to find out more about our services, get in touch with our friendly team on 0131 202 5314, or email us on hello@waterside.clinic.